Cheating, What are the real reasons?

Daily my boyfriend (http://www.youngmansblock.blogspot.com/) and I have rather healthy discussions about almost everything. We recently had a convo about men and women and the reasons they cheat. After reading an article from Yahoo about the reasons from a male perspective, we decided to blog about it. 200 married men were surveyed and asked the reasons why they cheat, a large portion of them agreed that a main reason was that the other women offered more emotional support to the man in his time of need, mostly coming from their female co-workers.

My boyfriend thinks this is a lie, and more of a blame the victim type of deal. But I can see it as being partially true (not that I'm taking the male's side or anything because I hate cheaters). But I also know that as humans we can fall susceptible to the dumbest crap of words that could come out of anyone's mouth, especially if it's coming from someone of the opposite sex. I think that some men do adore woman at work praising them, giving them attention that can make them feel more "manly" and appreciated, while at home the wifey might be tied down with kids, her own work, and some more stuff, so she may not have time to "cater" to her man, as much as he'd like. So I can see that being a reason to slide off into co-worker land to suck up all that praise and glory. It's not a good thing at all. I feel like a bond of love should be sooooooooooo much stronger than that. If the man wanted more attention from home, to make him feel like a man, he should just say it.

So overall, What are the top reasons that you think men AND women cheat?Do you think that women are more tactful than men at cheating? Why or why not?

Busy Busy Busy

So I work, attend school at night, and I must say, it's beginning to wear on me.
Half the time, I don't want to be bothered, talked to, looked at, asked to think anymore than I've already thought for the past 14 hours of the day nonstop. It's a cycle of never-ending motions and emtions, and that will continue for the next two years of my life. Sometimes I ask, what did I get myself into, is school worth going futher into debt to finance my education, sleepless hours, long nights, long days, dealing with rush hour traffic on the bus and train, walking blocks at a time, running for buses that I still tend to somehow miss, showing up late, barely reading hundreds of pages at a time, it all sounds bad right?! ....lol Well people tell me it has it's perks, I just don't see them yet, but I will once I receive that degree and the precious paycheck that comes along with it, until then prayer and that money in the future are the only things that keep me going. I just fear that my body doesn't shut down in the meantime. It's hard having to divide my time up amongst various people, places, and things nonstop from day to day. Sometimes I just want to do me, be free from chaos. So anyway pray for a sista :-/

ALONE

Who would have ever thought, a time would come,
When I want to be the only one,
no buses, subways, trains, or cars,
just me, my thoughts, and the distant stars,
A day when I can sit in silence and be free,
as the birds, who exercise true liberty,
I need a day or maybe a week to relax,
sit down enjoy nothing, and just kick back,
enjoy nothing? sounds weird, but hey I'd adore it,
like an expected birthday present, hell, I look forward to it,
but for some reason I just can't keep still,
It's my fault, I know, let's just keep it real,
when someone calls or stops by,
I'm the first one to adhere to their companionship sigh,
how do I say no, that's the problem, I just don't know,
Someday I'll realize the importance of self, but for now,
selflessness is left on the shelf,
I love my people and the things they do,
just hope they'll be there if I ever need them too :-/

-Written By Me baby: Divine Perception

My First Blog

I'm a virgin to this blog thing. So I decided to give it a try anyway, afterall, I like to talk, debate, express myself or whatever. My boyfriend says it's good therapy, so who couldn't use some day to day tension release. So here it is my first blog.... I call it "Today"

Life, it comes at you fast, faster than you can see,

people walking, back and forth aimlessly,

roaming down these city streets,

my phone rings, it's him, coming to see me?

my face lights up, my heart skips a beat,

in heaven I feel.... special....he loves me....

now I'm apart of this industry,

not the one where it's every man for himself,

the one where you put hurt and pain on the shelf,

open up your eyes and your mind,

let love pour in, like a cold glass of wine...

my co-workers are near,

It's him i see,

the one you want to marry, they say,

"Why not? He's cool with with me"

We all laugh, yea I agree,

He is the one, made just for me...