THIS IS HOW THE SWINE FLU GOT STARTED!!!!

There is no need to report anything other than this picture because it's been on the news everyday since lord knows when....

A Woman's Eyes

Do you feel that the eyes are really this powerful?!

"The Eyes":

"The eyes are the window of the soul. You look into a woman's eyes—especially in that moment of having sex or making love—and you can see the truth. You can see if she liked it. That gives you more assurance than a scream, than her clutching you and scratching your back. You look into her eyes and see that she can't control the bliss that you're putting on her. I love that. That's better than a female telling me she's coming!"

Now I'm asking the men, if they feel the same way about the power of a woman's eyes. What do you think? I'll make my comments after I hear from you....talk to me people....

Sex is Healthy!!!!

So as I was getting my teeth cleaned yesterday, I was watching the Mike & Juliet Show, some NBC or Fox morning show I think. Anyway, they had a married couple on there stating that they never have sex. Yea I know what you're thinking...burrrr how is this possible?! Married with no sex......Then you think of the stereotypes about married couples not gettin' in on the regular and it makes you question the whole married thing right? Well, they seemed like a nice married family with two kids (ages 8 and 12), so they are familiar with the act. However, the husband is a truck driver, ALWAYS on the road, and the mother is a nurse with a rather stable schedule. She goes to work, kids, homework, bed. Often missing her husband for days, when he does come home, she doesn't feel the need to have some "alone" time to reconnect the passion they had once before, and apperantly neither does he. They blame it on the kids and how tired they are. Kids can be real "sex police", but with some music or a tv in the background, and/or a baby sitter, you can MAKE a WAY, no excuses!

So a sex therapist asked the couple how they felt about the lack of sexual encounters they had, telling the wife that her lack of ambition for sexual relations, could lead her husband to stray away and "get it in" on the road. She stated that she wasn't worried about him cheating, she's comfortable with her relationship (all bull if you ask me!!!). The husband proclaims that he is waaaaaay too busy on the road to cheat (more bull if you ask me!!!). Now something sounds a bit fishy here. So I started thinking, maybe they both ARE TO TIRED, or maybe they're JUST NOT SEXUAL PEOLE. Then the sex therapist began to speak. She stated that sex is good for you, it is one of the three things people need to survive, of course it helps to procreate, but you need that, water, and food.

A male sex therapist began rattling off the healthy things sex can do for you. He says, the more sex a guy has the less of a chance he'll likely develop prostate cancer. Yes, he said all that built up fluid in the sacks, does a body good, if it's released on the regular. Second, sex is a good source of exercise, knowing that a good amount of it can help you burn some calories. If you can't make it to the gym, just have sex a couple of times a week and you'll be good..LOL. Third, having sex releases endorphins, yea the happy hormones that we all have. If you're having a bad day, release that stress by increasing your recreational activities to include bedroom action!!! Fourth, sex helps couples reconnect, both of the therapist stated that a little love making is good for the soul. It is a connection that only you and your partner can share, so it is healthy for a well balanced relationship, expressing love and passion, with intimate contact.

These are just a few things to think about. Society, Religion, etc. have turned sex into a bad thing because children and immature people play with it. It can also be very dangerous, with unwarranted children being born, and diseases that may arise. But if taken seriously, and engaged in cautiously, it can be an added benefit to your life, and can ultimately save your life! Think joyous thoughts people and go have sex...bye now.... :-)

Do you also want to go away?!?!?

Do you also want to go away? —John 6:67

What a penetrating question! Our Lord’s words often hit home for us when He speaks in the simplest way. In spite of the fact that we know who Jesus is, He asks, "Do you also want to go away?" We must continually maintain an adventurous attitude toward Him, despite any potential personal risk.

"From that time many of His disciples went back and walked with Him no more" (John 6:66 ). They turned back from walking with Jesus; not into sin, but away from Him. Many people today are pouring their lives out and working for Jesus Christ, but are not really walking with Him. One thing God constantly requires of us is a oneness with Jesus Christ. After being set apart through sanctification, we should discipline our lives spiritually to maintain this intimate oneness. When God gives you a clear determination of His will for you, all your striving to maintain that relationship by some particular method is completely unnecessary. All that is required is to live a natural life of absolute dependence on Jesus Christ. Never try to live your life with God in any other way than His way. And His way means absolute devotion to Him. Showing no concern for the uncertainties that lie ahead is the secret of walking with Jesus.

Peter saw in Jesus only someone who could minister salvation to him and to the world. But our Lord wants us to be fellow laborers with Him.

In John 6:70 Jesus lovingly reminded Peter that he was chosen to go with Him. And each of us must answer this question for ourselves and no one else: "Do you also want to go away?"

MADEA HATERS ALL AROUND....

A Washington Post Article made me write this blog....i did not post the entire article, if you want to read it go to the link...I only wrote some excerpts from it... http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/24/AR2009022403303.html?referrer=emailarticle

What's So Funny About Madea? Nothing.
By Courtland MilloyWednesday, February 25, 2009; B01

I went to see the Tyler Perry movie "Madea Goes to Jail," in which Perry plays a wise-cracking black grandmother, Madea, short for "Mother Dear" and ebonically pronounced "muh deah."
With an extensive criminal past that includes "supersize stripper," attempted murderer and check fraud artist, Madea is a near-cult figure among many African Americans, especially women. Thanks in large part to them, Perry's comedic creation debuted as the No. 1 movie in America over the weekend, raking in $41 million and 34 percent of the weekend moviegoing audience, according to box-office tracker Exhibitor Relations.

..........with the movie featuring guest appearances by Whoopi Goldberg, Dr. Phil, Judge Mathis and Al Sharpton, perhaps I'd even get in a laugh or two.
Boy, was I wrong -- on both counts.

.....There is nothing funny about this black man in pantyhose. And where is all of this cross-dressing-black-man stuff coming from, anyway? First, comedians Eddie Murphy and Martin Lawrence star in high-grossing movies as the fattest, ugliest black women that Hollywood makeup artists can conjure up, and now here's Perry with his gussied-up version of the same butt of the joke.

By the way, I don't want to hear diddly about Robin Williams as Mrs. Doubtfire or Milton Berle in high heels. Having a black man play super mammy is not the same thing. Perhaps it would be were it not for America's perverse, systemic and centuries-long efforts to humiliate African men and women and turn them into slaves.
......The only good a Madea movie could possibly do would be to remind us that the scars of oppression are deep and enduring, often operating below the level of consciousness, then breaking out in the most bizarre manifestation of self-hate and self-sabotage, including pathetic images on the big screen.
Of course, Perry's fans don't see it that way. .....

I'm not taking away anything from the 39-year-old Perry's resourcefulness and ingenuity. He pulled himself up by the bootstraps from a low-income household in New Orleans, started writing and putting on stage plays about Madea (supposedly a composite of women in his life) and went on to become one of the most successful filmmakers in America.
He has a beautiful home and his own studios in Atlanta. He hires lots of young black actors and production personnel and makes considerable contributions to worthy causes.
He is awesome.
It's just that his movies are awful.
Here's a typical scene:
Madea's brother, Uncle Joe, also played by Perry, is a crusty old coot who breathes with the aid of an oxygen tank while smoking marijuana throughout the movie (he even wears a bong around his neck). Madea, ever the boss woman, scolds him mercilessly about the dangers of mixing fire and oxygen. And -- here's where the audience howls -- as Madea waddles past, her behind wide as a doorway, Uncle Joe cracks: "King Kong ain't got nothing on her."
How'd you like to see that on a movie marquee: Madea the black woman as King Kong? That's about as funny, say, as a dead monkey cartoon from the New York Post?

....... Sure, all of Perry's fans claim to know someone like Madea. But in truth, we know nothing -- only that she is aging and irrationally angry, existing to clean up everybody's else's mess, a linebacker of a house servant whose unmet emotional needs remain a mystery even to the great Dr. Phil himself. We may laugh at her, but the joke is on us.

HERE IS MY RESPONSE BELOW!!!

I think this article is one sided. I mean, sometimes we have to laugh at ourselves, movies imitate life and life imitates movies at times. Regardless of how we portray ourselves, as educators, thugs, inmates, doctors, lawyers, no matter what we do it's not good enough to change the perception that anybody, white people, or even uppity Negroes have for us. The man is making his money, and there is nothing wrong with that. If white people can make movies as stupid as Pineapple Express (white kids smoking weed all day long), That Zack and somebody make a porno movie (white kids making pornos for money), Step-Brothers (where 30yr old white men, sleep in bunk beds and have fart fighting contests). White people don't complain about that tainting their image or make a big deal out of it. Because they are just movies! There is not one movie out there that doesn't not have a critic/hater finding something negative to say or write about it. Movies are a source of entertainment to make us laugh, cry, etc. If they can do that, we can make a movie that contains many messages not just about an over sized black woman who is blunt with her words. We as a race need to be more positive, for years and years we have been trying to prove ourselves, movies aren't going to do any more damage than what the past has already done for us. No matter if we do positive things or negative things, it won't change people's perceptions of our race, so just laugh about it, keep working hard and do what you do. That won't stop our hard work, it hasn't thus far.

Anyway, the Editor neglected to mention the lady in the movie who helped the prostitutes get off the streets, using religion to help change them, he neglected to mention that the movie contained young blacks who were district attorneys, helping some of our black people get lesser sentences in jail. He failed to neglect that family is portrayed to stick together, and how love can conquer all. So he should makes note of both sides to the story, and not just one. I don't even care for his pity and ending to say, oh but Tyler Perry fought through poverty and yada yada....if so, then find something positive to say about his movies. At least for once we can spend our money on our movies to help our black actors and actresses and not have to go to the movies and see all of the movies with predominately white characters who don't relate to us in ANY WAY. That is how I feel about it. Thanks!

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My boyfriend made a good point with this blog http://www.fishfryl.blogspot.com/ check him out!! Read below:

I'm sure that you know, just as well as I, some folks that probably shouldn't have kids. I'm also certain that you know some people that already have kids but should be denied all parenting potential whatsoever. For me, it is an ongoing concern that the wrong people continue to bring kids in this world. It hurts me to my heart when I see a single teen mom pushing a stroller with a baby hanging off of her arm while one rides in the carriage. It hurts me to my heart to hear stories of women that continue to pop out children just so they can collect checks at the expense of tax payers while their children run the streets freely and unsupervised. And, it most certainly hurts me to my heart to hear of young fathers abandoning their seeds for whatever reason they have concocted in their brain as sufficient enough to roll out. Although, I'm sure that this is completely unethical on so many levels, I am proposing a State legislation that requires parents to be to take and pass an exam before being granted permit to engage in the act of conception. Also, those that are already parents have to retake the exam before popping out any more children.

In my mind, there is nothing unethical about this. Its called "Population Control" and makes more sense than continuing to enable those people that CHOOSE to rape the system of all its benefits at tax payers' expense.

So, I've devised these basic questions that I think should be a part of the exam:

1. Which of the following objects can be used to prevent pregnancy?

a. Box of Crackers
b. Box of Cookies
c. Box of Condoms

2. Have you ever used the above item? Circle YES or NO

3. If the annual cost of raising a child is $200,000 and the above item costs $3, how much are you saving by purchasing one box of the above item?

a. $199,997

b. $45

c. None of the Above

4. Do you have children already? Circle YES or NO

5. Are you currently receiving government assistance? Circle YES or NO

6. Are you currently employed? Circle YES or NO

7. If you answered NO to the previous question, are you currently seeking employment? Circle YES or NO

8. How long have you been employed/unemployed?

a. Less than 6 months

b. 6 months to a year

c. 1 year +

9. The reason for your unemployment is:

a. You have not sought a job.

b. You were terminated from your previous job.

c. You resigned from your previous job.

d. You lack professional skills/educational background.

Elaborate: _______________________________________________________________________________

10. Do you own a home? Circle YES or NO

11. Do you currently live in a residence for which you are renting or leasing under your own identity? Circle YES or NO.

13. Do you have a checking/savings bank account? Circle YES or NO.

By signing below, you agree that you will utilize your full potential to create a standard living environment that facilitates and nourishes that of rearing a child for the sake of that child's well being. You also agree that both parents, regardless of relationship status between each other, do agree to contribute to the child's mental and physical health by providing the quality assistance, time, and direction to the child's upbringing. You also agree that you will not abandon this child and that you are conceiving this child because you honestly desire to produce an extension of you. You agree that you will do your best to raise an upstanding citizen with moral values and character.

Mother X______________________________

Father X_______________________________

Witness X______________________________

365....Love is Life and Life is Living * HAPPY ANNIVERSARY BABE*

"....tomorrow will come and girl i can't wait it's our anniversary....... anniversary...the first thing I'll do is run straight to you it our anniversary..... anniversary"

This blog is dedicated to my one and only. The man who has been there for me for the past year of my life. Who would have ever thought that love could find me, or I could find love. It's something that people on a regular basis go out and look for. However, I believe that it should be something that finds you, and happens. Life can throw many curve balls at you, it's just a matter of being prepared. Honor and cherish what you have at home, because even though the grass may look greener on the other side, once you get there it could be the total opposite. Stay true and make sure you have a balanced relationship, filled with love, compassion, honestly, communication, and most importantly love. Make sure you have self love first, that way you'll have an abundance to spread it to your significant other.

It has been officially 365 day of love for me. So I wanted to write a little something to show my man how much I love him.

This is our day baby, I can't believe it,

Love has found us, it's not deceiving,

Who would have ever thought, life could take this turn,

A turn for the better, you taught me and I've learned,

What love can be if we just try to receive,

Come at it full force, no really believe me,

Don't give up love is worth the fight,

Whether it's mental or physical, dealing with the plight,

Make sure that our souls speak freely, honestly and true,

There's no one I'd rather be with than you,

It takes hard work that's for sure,

If you work with me babe, I can give you much more,

Times will come when people may intervene,

Try to steal the joy, maybe have tricks up the sleeve,

Situations may arise, that test our faith,

Communication can fix it, if its what we're willing to take,

There is no mountain higher I can scream loudly from,

When I look into your eyes it's like the rays from the sun,

We gotta make it work, we've come this far,

It's our anniversary babe, and you are my star..

I love you....

20 Questions of the day

When you're bored, this is what you do....and if you're just as bored as I am, then you'll respond and give me some answers to my questions..LOL

1. Why does the economy seem to get worse daily instead of better?

2. How does Chipotle get their sour cream to be so thin, when you buy it in the store, it's mad thick and fluffy?!

3. If you feel in love before and had your heart torn, worn, and broken, once your heart is repaired, does it have scars and stretch marks on it?!

4. How come the most people who love to talk about sex, are the least sexiest!?

5. Why do people plan to cheat?!

6. How come people don't wash their hands when they leave the bathroom?! was it not taught at home?!

7. Why did I see like 6 Caucasians running through every neighborhood I drove in last night? Were they running from the cops, or getting their exercise?

8. Why does it seem like Hilary is more excited to be with Obama, than she is to be with Bill?!

9. Have anyone seen a picture of the blackasian Lil lil Wang, I mean Wayne?!

10. Do you think some of the episodes of "How to Catch a Predator" are as funny as I do?
excerpt from a funny episode I saw: "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!....You got cool whip, ......and your chasing the cat around...." LMAO that makes me crack up every time.

11. Why do people go to the club to have find others to bring home, and one night stands?!yet we claim the AIDS rate is soooo high!

12. Why does work never get done AT work?!

13. Why can't life always be this easy?!

14. Why do people change their Facebook picture like 5 times a day?!

15. Why do dudes lie to "protect female's feelings"?!

16. Why are bus drivers always so mean?! yet train conductors seem high off of closing the doors on rushing passengers...

17. How come having babies is more important than marriage these days?!

18. Why do the least religious people utter the words "Oh My God!" in times of their need?!!!!

19. Why do people have debates over trying to make weed legal?! you're gonna do it no matter if it's legal or illegal, so just shut up about it already, get high, and stop complaining....

20. Why am I writing these questions when I should be working?!

OK now I'm getting back to work...these are my thoughts for today...thanks for reading

ATTEMPTING TO RESIST TEMPTATION

ATTEMPTING TO RESIST TEMPTATION
WRITTEN BY YOURS TRULY : DIVINE PERCEPTION


When you look into the mirror what do you see?
A little brown girl that looks like me;

Dark hair, sun-kissed skin, a round nose, and full lips,
Curves all over especially the hips;

These are things that make me beautiful, different from the rest,
When “they” ask me “what’s pretty?” I always know what’s best;

So how do others fit into my equation of life?
They don’t….. In fact; they only cause drama and strife;

Why do I feel like I need to depend on them for satisfaction?
When every time they appear it’s just a distraction…….

A distraction from what I know is best for me,
All I need is GOD, true friends and my family;

These guys tell me things they know I want to hear,
But when I really need them, they never seem to appear;

They only seem to want me for one aspect of myself,
But after it’s complete I feel lost……..like the last item on a shelf…..

Why do I feel I need this attention?
I have to focus on my goals, GOD and not to mention…

The purpose I am here to live and breathe,
Because I want to be remembered when I leave…..

So why am I focused on negativity,
And people who are….. Of no importance to me?

When I’m stressed I tend to stray in the wrong direction
Looking for love and affection;

When the truth is, I never receive exactly what I’m looking for,
And when they turn around and walk out the door…..

I still feel the same way I did before they came,
The emotions are a mixture of pleasure and pain;

I need something to make me believe,
Know I am better than any boy or man perceives;

So if I just hold on I know the clouds will soon be gone,
Because there’s a blessing in this storm;

This is all a test….. A part of GOD’s perfect plan;
The truth is he’s the most important person or Man!!

I need to realize this before things get out of hand,
And I’m no longer able to withstand….

All of the emotions that I tend to portray,
Because ONLY he’s going to be there, standing before ME on Judgment Day!!


A poem for a Friend Written December 16, 2005
(these are my thoughts and my words!!)

Spiritual Dejection

This touched me today: Read and share with friends....Spiritual Dejection

We were hoping that it was He who was going to redeem Israel. Indeed, besides all this, today is the third day since these things happened —Luke 24:21

Every fact that the disciples stated was right, but the conclusions they drew from those facts were wrong. Anything that has even a hint of dejection spiritually is always wrong. If I am depressed or burdened, I am to blame, not God or anyone else. Dejection stems from one of two sources— I have either satisfied a lust or I have not had it satisfied. In either case, dejection is the result. Lust means "I must have it at once." Spiritual lust causes me to demand an answer from God, instead of seeking God Himself who gives the answer. What have I been hoping or trusting God would do? Is today "the third day" and He has still not done what I expected? Am I therefore justified in being dejected and in blaming God? Whenever we insist that God should give us an answer to prayer we are off track. The purpose of prayer is that we get ahold of God, not of the answer. It is impossible to be well physically and to be dejected, because dejection is a sign of sickness. This is also true spiritually. Dejection spiritually is wrong, and we are always to blame for it.

We look for visions from heaven and for earth-shaking events to see God's power. Even the fact that we are dejected is proof that we do this. Yet we never realize that all the time God is at work in our everyday events and in the people around us. If we will only obey, and do the task that He has placed closest to us, we will see Him. One of the most amazing revelations of God comes to us when we learn that it is in the everyday things of life that we realize the magnificent deity of Jesus Christ.

What is with her?! Is she seeking to find love from fetuses..does she not get tired of sleepless nights, buying out massive amounts of pampers from Costco...is there a mental problem involved, or is this truly her love for children. I mean I have a large amount of siblings and I love them all, and am blessed, but to raise an army, navy, football team, and baseball team all at once, is a bit much. I think this lady needs a little love from someone. I'm not sure if this is her experiement to get famous and seek handouts, I'm just not sure. Anyway, I write all of that to say, I think she's beyond crazy with this one!!! She doesn't even have her own house, and 9 times out of 10, she will not be working for at least another 5 or 6 years to pay her dues to society. It's amazing how someone can claim the babies are gifts from god, when they weren't created in a godly way (with a man and a woman), but rather in a science lab at the hospital. It's absolutely ridiculous for her to put that much pressure on anyone, she is not an octopus and can't use all 8 arms to hold the babies when they're crying at once. That's one of those things where her parent should have kicked her out and told her what the meaning of tough love is. Unless they aren't too well off in the head either!!! what would posses someoen to do something like that. I hope none of her kids end up likethe kids in this picture!!!

POVERTY doesn't mean FOREVER a poem by yours truly!

Poverty,
what do you know about it, holdin’ us back by giving us pity,
we don’t need it, you can keep it, we need you to think through this clearly,
it’s a perpetuating cycle, the reason we live this way,
we got mad bills that WE JUST CAN’T PAY,
pay this bill, that bill, get a small raise,
then loose the welfare benefits in a matter of days,
so we choose to NOT take the money that’s just sittin’…
so guess what, we’re really not benefittin’
it’s not helping us at all, but rather, it’s a hinder,
more like a deadly crash, than a fender bender….

get some skills my people, try to maintain,
don’t sit up here and just complain,
I see you with your Gucci and Prada purse, some of your stuff still has tags
then you get in line and whip out the food stamps, to fill your grocery bags,
then your baby has on Jordan’s, but can’t spell their name,
so what gives you the right to sit up here and complain,
do you even know how to communicate with his teachers?!?!?
you get mad because he’s in timeout, sittin’ on the bleachers,

unless you have done all you can,
don’t sit up here and blame “The Man”
this may be something that you don’t want to hear,
scared to progress because of that “black fear”,
you don’t want to be a sell out right?, that’s what I always hear
since you were born in the hood, you want to die in the hood,
if you think that’s cute, then go ahead and stay, maybe you should

look I’ve been in this same situation, no heat, no lights, no groceries, we all face it,
instead of you sittin’ on your butt waiting for a check, work to eliminate it
do what you have to do to survive, and I don’t mean rob folks and do drive bys,
I mean really better yourself, with some knowledge, it can be street or book,
I just want you to learn something and take a look,
look at this situation, so you can see why I carry it,
I’m not oblivious, I know poverty exist, hell some are married to it,

I grew up in it, if not worse off than you,
but I took a vow to advance and pull through,
graduated at the top of my class,
went to college, now I’m in grad school, I didn’t just sit on my a$%,
So don’t tell me achievement is not possible,
until you’ve exhausted all your options, and faced an unmovable obstacle,

for Christ sake now we have a BLACK MAN, running this here LAND,
you can’t need much more motivation,
do something people, I don’t want us to face annihilation,
In Africa we’ve faced assimilation, now we need some unshakable dedication,
I’m keepin’ it real right?!?! I’m tellin’ it like it is,
So don’t tell me to stay outta your family biz….

Yes,I lived “IT”, BUT “IT” I OVERCAME,
I just pulled out my umbrella when my life started to rain
it’s sad because I know some of you won’t face the fall,
All I ask, is that you teach our kids more than rapping and basketball,

I just want my people progressing, they may progress like you’ve never seen,
and come one step closer to the “American Dream”
Maybe they can buy the whole hood Llamas,
but I rather see them run a white country, like President Obama!

Relationships and the Platonic Friendships... REALLY?

Here's my little spew on how I feel about platonic relationships:

Relationships are hard things to keep together. The years, months, and days can go by, even minutes, and something or someone, could step in and ruin them. It could be insecurities, trust, or it could be absolutely nothing but a real platonic friend.

Prime Example: Things could be going well at home, but because of insecurities or jealousy on your part, or something as simple as your man/girl, having a "best" or "close" friend of the opposite sex. In your mind, it could cause harm, or cause you to think there is potential harm. This may very well be true, and in some cases it may not, use it at your own discretion.

Reasons Why You May Feel This Way: There is a possibility the "friend" could be chillin' in the cut, waiting for things to mess up at home, so they can step in. It could also be possible that this friend is the one that your significant other runs to when you have a disagreement at home. Sometimes these action would allow those of the opposite sex TOOOOOOOO close, and this can potentially damage your relationship. Everybody claims they have so much self-control, and aren't "that stupid", to slip up and cheat, etc. But at the end of the day, nobody is monitoring you, or with you every waking moment of your life, so it is possible, for someone to "go in for the kill" or "slide right in" under your/your significant other's nose without intent.

The Role Of the Significant Other: Trust is very important in a relationship. Most times all we have is the word of our significant other. There could be times when your man/woman is texting another female/male right under your nose. It could be a dangerous or straight friendship checking on one another, but you will truly never know, that's why you have to have trust, (Of course, unless you are the crazy stalker type). Your man/woman could also, be e-mailing, chatting, Myspace, Facebookin', etc., this other person and you not know. They have many access modes of communication going on. As the other half, you should make sure flirting is kept to a minimum, preferably none at all!, but it's second nature for some guys to have a slick tongue, we can't knock that unless we cuttin' tongues out..LOL but that's crazy :-). If you are going to be in relationships, it's best to have some form of discipline, self-control, and responsibility. Don't make your significant other look like the fool, by giving the other chick, or dude the upper hand and allowing them to come into you personally, and share a secret that only you two know. That sets yourself up for destruction in the end. We all know karma is a b*&ch, and what is done in the dark does come out on the light! If you do something, no matter how hard you try to cover it up, it will backfire. So just stay real, and be true to you and your significant other. If not, just be single and do whatever and not care. Life would be much easier in that case.

The Platonic Friend who is in a relationship: If you have a platonic friend of the opposite sex who is involved with someone, this can also, allow you or your spouse to think that b/c of this you would never do anything with that person. Well this can be a lie to yourself, and to your significant other. This type of platonic friend, could be the best one to have if you have plans to "mess up". They take less maintenance and you won't have to talk to, or see them often; other than the occasional encounters. In this case, I feel like no matter what, all calls, texts, chats, messages, etc, even to a platonic friend of the opposite sex in a relationship, should be kept to a minimum. Spend that time with your significant other building on your relationship, and not "giving" yourself to someone else.

Reassurance: Your man/woman can prove to you that they go through loops and holes to show you they love, care, want, and appreciate only you. This may very well be true, but if you are one that doesn't like your significant other having platonic friends of the opposite sex, regardless of this reassurance, you can question that. It may not be your spouse that you don't trust, it could just be THEM! The best thing is to just pray about it, and let the trust guide you and the progress of the relationship. Nobody sees everything that's going on, and at times all you have is "their word".

My Belief: I believe that at times platonic friends are great things, having the perspective from the opposite sex can benefit because you can get advice or examples that can help to improve your own relationship. We are a different species and we tend to think only our way, instead of seeing both sides to it. I know I have great times with my friends of the opposite sex, and nothing comes out of it, except pure fun, and laughter, nothing fishy, or worth questioning. I believe that introducing your friends to your significant other, and maybe explaining the extent of the relationship can smooth things over. I believe that it is healthy to have friends of the opposite sex, as long as you are disciplined enough to keep those boundaries up and keep it on the friend level. I don't think ANY platonic friend is worth loosing what's at home, if what you have at home is good for you, and you can see a future with that person. It's all about self-control, and if you don't have any, get some! or pray for some, both work wonders. If nobody else is listening, the LORD is that's for sure.

In the end: I know what I am to my man and that means a lot more to me, than who his female friends are/were to him. They just need to know their roles and respect that was well, if not then that's where problems arise. It takes a strong person to have that will power, that security, that love, and trust each and everything from their significant other.

Love is hard, relationships are hard, especially if you've been through a horrible one or even a few horrible ones. It can cause you to loose all these things. I find my source of strength from praying, and communication, it's all I can do, and leave the rest to him.

Did you ever feel like a platonic friendship could potentially threaten your relationship?

Have You Ever Been Alone with God?

Have You Ever Been Alone with God?

When they were alone, He explained all things to His disciples —Mark 4:34

Our Solitude with Him. Jesus doesn't take us aside and explain things to us all the time; He explains things to us as we are able to understand them. The lives of others are examples for us, but God requires us to examine our own souls. It is slow work— so slow that it takes God all of time and eternity to make a man or woman conform to His purpose. We can only be used by God after we allow Him to show us the deep, hidden areas of our own character. It is astounding how ignorant we are about ourselves! We don't even recognize the envy, laziness, or pride within us when we see it. But Jesus will reveal to us everything we have held within ourselves before His grace began to work. How many of us have learned to look inwardly with courage?

We have to get rid of the idea that we understand ourselves. That is always the last bit of pride to go. The only One who understands us is God. The greatest curse in our spiritual life is pride. If we have ever had a glimpse of what we are like in the sight of God, we will never say, "Oh, I'm so unworthy." We will understand that this goes without saying. But as long as there is any doubt that we are unworthy, God will continue to close us in until He gets us alone. Whenever there is any element of pride or conceit remaining, Jesus can't teach us anything. He will allow us to experience heartbreak or the disappointment we feel when our intellectual pride is wounded. He will reveal numerous misplaced affections or desires— things over which we never thought He would have to get us alone. Many things are shown to us, often without effect. But when God gets us alone over them, they will be clear.